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Open Letter to my Church

Going thru the Blogdom of God I so often read about church’s that are in some state of crisis.  You name it and they seem to be going thru it. Church’s that don’t have Elders, Elders who aren’t in line with one another, Pastors not in line with the Elders and congregants not in line with Elders.  There are countless arguments over forms of worship, from what type of music should be sung to how it should be sung. Squabbles of every nature imaginable just seem to permeate so much of the body of Christ that it’s little wonder how people can get turned off from corporate worship and yet that is what we are called by our Savior to do.

Recently Jared (from Thinklings fame :-) ) has started a new blog called The Gospel-Driven Church where he has been unpacking a lot of what he feels the church isn’t and what it should be. His most recent post is titled: 11 Innovations for Your Church.  I actually came across his post from the Internet Monks response: A Shocking Agenda for the Church in which he takes Jared’s 11 suggestions and tags on a few of his own.

In reading thru them I realized how blessed I am to be part of a church that seems to be doing so many things right. And no, we’re not perfect by any means and I certainly don’t want to sound at all boastful in this post, but based on these gentleman’s suggestions we do appear to be heading the right direction.  So what are the suggestions and where do we stand….

1. Sing hymns.
As an ARP church this is the only thing that we are supposed to sing, yes I know we sing a lot more than just hymns but we do sing them. We are truly blessed by having Tom Leich as our Director of Music. As my wife points out there’s nothing like hearing Tom clear the dust out of the organ pipes. The love that he has for traditional hymns (which he got from his Dad Roland) and his humble servants heart enrich our Sunday mornings making it much easier to set the world aside and enter into worship.

2. Preach through a book of the Bible.
Our senior pastor Rev. Curtis Young has been with us now since 1994. He has systematically taken us thru numerous books in the Bible and his exegetical style of preaching interspersed with humor and real life application have given all of us a more solid foundational understanding of our faith.

3. Talk about sin.
Hey, we’re an ARP church – we don’t hide the fact that we’re all sinners and fall short of the glory of God.

4. Celebrate the Lord’s Supper more frequently.
We went from having it once a month to now having it every Sunday. There was a lot of concern that having it more frequently would in some way lessen it’s significance to us. I believe we have found that to be far from the truth, it has instead become the pinnacle and culmination of our time together Sunday mornings.

5. Have a Scripture reading in the service.
While we’ve always done this it’s becoming a more prominent part of our service. Our Associate Pastor Fred Carr loves responsive readings and a more liturgical service. As an ex-Catholic I find myself appreciating these additions to our recent services.

6. Transition creative content from aping popular commercials and other media to creating your own, wholly original content.
I don’t believe we’ve ever attempted to take something from popular culture and recreate it for any purpose.

7. Read, study, and teach theology.
In the past we have had Sunday School classes that I believe fit this bill, but we could always do more in this area. One of the things that I’ve always enjoyed at our church is the emphasis on Sunday School across the ages. Normally we have 4 adult classes available so there’s usually something for everyone.

8. Put as much effort and resources into men’s ministry as you do women’s. On the flipside, pair up younger women with wise, older women in mentoring relationships with the same conviction you have about men being in accountability and mentoring partnerships.
I’ll give this one a hearty Amen. And yes we do have older women mentoring younger women. My wife is involved in mentoring to young mothers. I’ve stretched out in the past year and brought together 5 of my closest friends so we could be accountable to one another. Now we need to begin mentoring to some of the younger men in our church. It’s our hope that we will be the impetus in spreading this thru the rest of the men. But honestly men seem to be inordinately stubborn in getting involved in this way.

9. Hire from within.
We’ve always strived to do this. In some ways this has even become a form of mercy by providing part time work for stay at home mothers whose families have needed some extra income.  We’ve gone so far as to split up full time positions so more people could be partially employed.

10. In promotional material, use actual photos of actual people in your community.
I’ll be honest – the people on our website are not us, but I (I take care of the website) have gotten too much hemming and hawing over the use of "real" pictures. Paranoia runs a bit rampant with some people. Sigh

11. Preach the Gospel.
I believe we do this fairly well.

And now the additional ones from the Internet Monk.

12. Elders.
Absolutely!

13. Use the Apostles’ and Nicene creeds in worship.
Hmm, once in a blue moon we’ll recite these.

14. Have a book table.
No book table, we normally have a missionary table in the narthex. We do have a great library with a nice big window in the hallway where Rick Plasterer always has a great display of new books or books that are relevant to the current sermon series.

15. Less music. Fewer instruments.
Uhm… NO. Personally I enjoy the current arrangement of our worship.  I think the worship team and our pastoral staff have done a wonderful job creating a well blended service.

16. A couple of good mercy ministries.
We have one that is run be the deaconates and has done a wonderful job over the years helping out people both within our church as well as in the community.

17. Partner with a third world church, and instead of going over on a “mission trip,” send a small team to find out what they need that you can provide.
We have sent teams over to a church in Togo a number of times now, but I don’t believe we’ve actually partnered with the church as much as we have with the missionary whose involved there. And while I love this idea, we have a number of missionaries from our church all working in various countries.  It would be difficult to pick a particular church to work with.

18. Pray the Psalms.
Sing the Psalms?? Yes

19. Train up some hymn-writers.
While we’re not specifically training up hymn writers we do actually have 2 very gifted writers in our church. Keri Jacobs has been leading our worship team for years now and has a personal ministry that she’s named Alternate Melody. She’s taken older hymns and written more contemporary music for them, and she’s also written a number of new songs based on Psalms.

20. Defy labels.
I chuckled at this one.  I usually think of us as being somewhat stodgy curmudgeons, but then I remember that’s just me. :-)
I don’t think we’re breaking any molds. We’re doing church the way it should be done, or at least trying. I sometimes think that’s why our doors aren’t exactly bursting these days. We’re teaching the Truth and that’s a hard thing for a lot of people to listen to let alone accept.

21. A counseling/teaching ministry aimed at marriages and families.
I believe we have 4-5 couples who have each been married over 30 years ministering to new couples. While the original intention was for them to counsel couples preparing to marry, I know that they are also involved in mentoring. Their ministry also puts together yearly retreats and evening activities for the married couples in the church.

22. Teach the classic disciplines of the devotional life.
This happens to be the focus of our Senior High School Sunday class this year. I’m looking forward to seeing where we (youth and leaders) all go with this.

If you ever happen to find yourself in Wheaton, MD on a Sunday and would like to attend, what I consider a good old fashioned worship service, then stop by we’d love to meet you.

And in closing I’d like to thank all the members of my extended family at Church of the Atonement. You are an incredibly diverse and talented group of people who have and continue too enrich my life in countless ways.

Providence and Timing

Just the other day the Unfettered one wrote to our men’s group suggesting that it was time for us to, “get down to some more serious work.”

I’m excited about the progress we have made so far but I think Paul would encourage us to excel still more.

I think perhaps it is time that we change course in our journey and get into some deeper waters as it were. It’s time we pass from the milk to the meat and set our jaws for chewing and savoring.

I’d like to suggest we begin the next phase by looking at probably the greatest issue in our personal lives and that being growth in personal sanctification and holiness. Indeed I have no intention of abandoning the gospel for this pursuit but rather seek to ask the question what does “gospel holiness” look like. How do we live in light of the gospel’s sanctifying work of grace while seeking to become that which we have already obtained by virtue of our union with Christ?

In light of this desire, and I know it’s one that our group aspires towards, I found it most providential that the very next day the Rev. John Samson at Reformation Theology posted this article: “Top Ten Books on Piety, Sanctification, Spiritual Growth”.

Take a moment and read over the list that John has put together. I certainly recognize a number of the titles but the one that he has listed as number one is not one that I’m familiar with. After reading the description at Monergism.org I find myself itching to not only add it to my collection, but to also purchase it for the rest of the men in my small group.

Gossip

This started as a comment to this post at GodLovesLauren on gossiping.

Firstly let me point out that guys can be just as bad about gossiping as any “stereotypical” woman. The female gender does not have this market cornered by any means. I think guys handle it a bit differently and so it may not “look” so much like your genders version of gossiping, but believe me it boils down to the same thing. Which to me is more often about talking “smack” behind someones back. As for the reasons for doing this; I think you pointed out the majority of them but they are quite numerous:

Jealousy – in my business dealings I have seen this numerous times in regards to funding for projects.
Inferiority Complex – this can spin off the same reasons as Jealousy.
Injustice – anything can set this one off. Most times it’s a percieved injury that may not have any reality too back it up.
Pettiness – some people are just plain stinkers and look for any reason to belittle another person, and yes I think it boils down to them trying to make themselves feel better. This is like picking “D – all the Above”.

Maybe we can start a list – if anyone has any more they’d like to flesh out. It might be good to sometimes use them as reminder to ourselves, as I don’t think any of us are totally immune to the lure of gossip.

As for handling gossip in my current place of employment…
I happen to work in an office that’s 95% female so most of the gossiping that I am aware of is by my female co-workers. I”m in a quasi management position but I’m not anyones boss which means I’m a fairly nuetral third party – kind of like Switzerland. This has made for some interesting and sometimes uncomfortable interactions as some of the women seem to feel that they can confide in me. I have personally found that the great majority of the gossip in my office is because of an unfounded sense of being violated. I say unfounded because it usually revolves around someone doing their job in a way that the other person feels is impacting thier job, but no one is willing to talk to each other about this. That’s when I’m sometimes drawn into the fray. My first reaction is to ask if they’ve talked to the other person about the problem. I’ve honestly not heard once, in the 2 years I’ve been here, anyone who has tried to work out an issue. Instead they want to gripe about the problem and then back it up by “gossiping” about other problems with this person.

You also brought up your utter abhorrence with the fact that Christians seem to be no better about this than those in our secular society. I could give you the simple, though somewhat flippant response that, sin is sin and the Christian is just as fallen in this area as anyone else. Excuse me while I go wipe the bad taste from my mouth.
But I honestly believe that it is a sin that must be battled thru just like all the rest. The big difference for the Christian is that we above all others knows how fallen we are. This understanding should leave is in such a state of humility that we would never look with disdain or contempt or jealousy on another.

There is so much good in the worst of us,
And so much bad in the best of us,
That it hardly becomes any of us
To talk about the rest of us.
~Edward Wallis Hoch